Follow me to a sketchy dark alley on the edge of Chinatown. I will lead you infront of a Chinese restaurant that looks like every single place in that area. Open the doors and you are suddenly inside a dark cozy lair, surrounded by antique looking medicine bottle that line the wall, plush couches and chairs, and a bunch of people in white lab coats fiddling by the bar. Is this some kind of Chinese medicine establishment? An abandoned pharmacy? Well…

We are at Apotheke. Yes, its supposed to be an old apothecary hence the name and decor. The interior is really beautiful and sexy but at the same time intriguing. I love the location and entrance to this place, its definitely a speakeasy. You really have to search and hunt for this gem, which is half the fun of going to speakeasies. At first I couldnt even figure out which door I was supposed to go in and thought I had to go through the Chinese restaurant. It’s definitely exciting to step through those doors. A very wonderful surprise. The bartenders are dressed in white lab coats and they will hand you a ”presciription” list (the menu) with an incredible list of concoctions depending on your “ailment” or I guess mood for the night.

All of their cocktails sound amazing and although they are on the pricier side (15 bucks a pop), they are worth every single sip. I chose from the category of “Painkiller” and got the Hecho De Mexico since I have a weakness for spicy drinks. It was tequila, tamarind, lime, agave nectar and habanero sauce for a nice kick. It was delicious. It definitely killed whatever pain I had anywhere! It was tangy and spicy, very well balanced and went down smoothly. The second drink I had came from the “Stress Relievers” section and it was called Bees Knees. Amazeballs!!! Vodka with bee pollen and guava and goji berry with some ginger, it was a party in  my mouth. I could have drank five of them. It sure took all my stress away! So good and dangerous. I am dying to  try everything on their menu. It all sounds so amazing and they really take the time to perfect each drink.

On certain nights they have a charming live jazz band and they also now have Prohibition Wednesdays where they have a special menu of really old time drinks like moonshine flights, old timer, sazerac and bathtub gin. made with the freshest fruits and vegetables and fantastic liquor.

Apotheke is really special and a place to bring good company where you can really enjoy drinking and good music and have a true speakeasy experience. Its so mysterious that it makes you feel like you are in the know! Show this off to people visiting you out of town or a special date and they will think you are the biggest bad ass in New York City.



Are you ready for 2017? When the New Year rolls around we usually have an exhaustive list of New Year’s resolutions we want to fulfill – it’s the time of year where thousands upon thousands of likeminded women like you and other members of “20-30s Women, See & Be Seen, Making a Difference” plan to do more or less of something. New Year’s resolutions usually revolve around quitting vices such as smoking, eating junk or spending or it could be something like hitting the gym to get rid of those extra pounds that have crept up over the last year. If we really analyze our New Year’s resolutions they seem to be frivolous in comparison to other things – they are more of a chore than anything else, and let’s face it, within one or two months they’ll be broken. Looking ahead into your future is vital if you want success and happiness, so how about really doing something that could transform your life once and for all? How about really giving yourself a gift and making resolutions to turn around your love life and find your Mr. Right?

Before you move on to 2017 you need to look back and reflect on the year that has been.

How was 2016 for you?

Did it live up to your expectations?

If you could, what would you change?

These days many women find it difficult to succeed in love. It could be that your ex is still present in your life and you can’t move on, it could be that you’re looking for love in all the wrong places, it could be that you’re not looking at all, or it might even have something to do with how you act around men. Whatever it is, know that you can change it.

You’re the CEO of your own love life and now it is the time for you to take the bull by it horns and change the direction of your life once and for all. After a series of ups and downs, the confident single woman should be among those making some serious resolutions.

The question is: where to start?

1. Go Solo

Many young and confident women near and far have this imbedded fear of going out alone. For 2014, make it one of your priorities to spend more time with yourself. Get to know yourself better – have dinner by yourself or catch a movie alone. You will gain so much more independence, grow in confidence and of course you’ll have less chances of just settling for any man due to loneliness. What’s more, you’ll also attract more men. Men feel intimidated by large groups of women; therefore, you’ll increase your chances of men approaching you more if you’re alone.

2. Look beyond your type

Many women have long extensive lists of what they’re looking for and most usually go for a set type. Be a little bit more open-minded when it comes to dating and don’t dismiss a guy because he doesn’t fit one of your criteria. You could actually be missing out on some great opportunities to find new love by being so close-minded.

3. Enough with the comparisons

One of the biggest mistakes single women make is comparing themselves to their friends and family members who are in steady relationships or are married. This is like self-torture and you’re not doing yourself any favors by doing this, in fact you’re making it worse. You’re making yourself out to be a victim; you’ll end up miserable and nobody wants to hang out with someone who’s always wallowing in their own self-pity. While being in a relationship has many advantages, look at your own advantages of being single – no kids, no extra responsibilities and no problems with the in-laws. When you think about all the positive aspects of your life, you’ll feel uplifted; you’ll smile more and you won’t be bitter. Remember positive energy attracts positive energy and you’ll have more chances of finding somebody who’ll treat you right and add more positivity into your life.

You don’t want to be stuck with a loser who’s pessimistic and brings you down, do you?!  I thought so…

Remember, you have the control and the power to make better choices in love, because you’re the CEO of your own life, not anyone else.

4. Learn from the past

What didn’t go the way you wanted to in 2013 and the years before that?

What could be slowing you down, standing in a way or stopping you from finding a decent guy who wanted the same things as you?

Reflecting on the past and analyzing what really worked and didn’t work can help you make better choices in the future.

5. Stop being afraid

It’s natural to feel apprehensive when entering a new relationship. But just because you’ve been burned before, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to happen again. Actually, if you really are in charge of your love life, you’ll ensure it will never happen again. Start loving yourself more and don’t shut out men because you fear being hurt. If need be, create a positive mantra for yourself, repeat affirmations and remind yourself of how great you are. If you continue to live in fear, your life will remain the same, you’ll follow the same old pattern as the previous years and all of what you’ve achieved so far would have been a complete waste of time. Love thyself and look at your fears as challenges. Nobody got anywhere in the world without taking a few risks.

2014 will be the year for you to find love, but only if you let it. If you start looking at things differently and realistically, you’ll have all the luck in love you want plus a lot more. When you fill your life with happiness, you’ll see other aspects change too. Love is a wonderful thing and you deserve nothing but the best.

This blog post is written and shared by Polina Solda, a relationship expert and professional coach. For a limited time, she offers a free 1-on-1 coaching session “Find Love in 2014″. See below.

If you’d like to FIND LOVE in 2017 and to have that experience of your Mr.Right, whatever that may be for you—successful, commitment-oriented, strong, attractive, smart, fun, sexy—whatever kind of man you’d really love in your heart of hearts to have in your life…

If you’d like to be able to enjoy the kind of relationship that you’re looking for where you go out on dates, go on vacations together and make plans with your couple friends and have all those great couple experiences…
Maybe you want to get married and have a family…
It all starts with finding the right guy, finding your Mr. Right and I’d like to help you do that, to make 2017 the best year for your love life, yet.

For a limited time only I’m offering a New Year’s special 1-on-1 coaching session “Find Love in 2014″ for ZERO COST. During this special free 1-on-1 session, you’ll work together to:

=> Create a crystal clear vision for the kind of man that you’d like to attract and the kind of relationship that you’d like to have.
=> We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with men, dating and relationships.
=> You’ll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to find and keep a great man once and for all.
To claim your spot now, simply click reply and answer these questions:

1. How long have you been single?

2. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it for you to get into a relationship now?

3. What do you see as your biggest relationship challenges?

4. What would you most like help with when it comes to men and dating?

Be sure to include your name, phone number and email address so that someone from my team can get back to you within the next 48 hours to schedule your 1-on-1 coaching session “Find Love in 2017.”

P.S. I can’t wait to hear how great things are for you once you’ve got that great man in your life!

The “Someday Syndrome”: An Invisible Trap That Might Keep You Single

The “Someday Syndrome”: An Invisible Trap That Might Keep You Single

I’ve known Maria, 35, for about 5 years. She and I moved to NYC around the same time. Occasionally we’d see each other at parties and catch up. She knew me before I got engaged. Next time she saw me I was married and had a six-month baby. About a year later we talked again – this time it was during a free intro coaching session that I offer to my prospective clients.

Maria told me she wanted to be married by the end of 2014 to a smart, successful, mature and down-to-earth man who would consider having kids and family.  She explained that being in a relationship and having a partner to share things with would make her happier, more motivated and fulfilled.

When I asked her what gets in her way of meeting the right man, she provided a long list of challenges – from not knowing where to meet quality men, to her personal traits that “screw things up.” She shared some of the recurring negative and disappointing experiences from a string of her short-lived relationships. The last one was so bad that she took a break from dating for almost a year.

“So, what will you do to get what you want?” I asked her. She answered: “I’ll wait and see what happens. I know that I’ll meet the right guy someday.” I challenged her why she was so certain that “someday” will ever come. Besides, if it was supposed to happen, why hadn’t it already happened in the last 15 years of dating up until now? She jokingly said, “Good point. If don’t meet him in the next couple of years, then I’ll come to you for coaching. I’m not that desperate yet. ”

Her response was what I call the “someday syndrome”. You know, when women say “Someday I’ll meet the man of my dreams”. “Someday My Prince Charming will show up and we’ll marry and live happily ever after.”

Oh, the “Someday Syndrome”…it gets women trapped in a “single” status for years without them being aware about that. Some 30-something women who come to coaching with me have been single for as long as 9 years. It wouldn’t matter if they were content with being single but these women dream about marriage, a husband and children.

While we all have dreams, there’s a huge difference between dreaming of “someday” and actual day-after-day life that easily turns into month-after-month and year-after-year without ever reaching that “someday”.

The “someday syndrome” can interfere and consume us – and it can happen to the best of people. In fact, that’s not your fault! You’ve been a victim of beliefs that were told to you over and over again from the early age. Remember how you were told as a little girl that someday Prince Charming on a white horse will show up and sweep you off your feet? How he’ll resolve all your problems (and missing out on life) with a kiss and you don’t even have to move a finger?

So, you’re a smart and grown up woman who has a choice about what you believe in and what you do with your life. Now, it’s totally up to you. You can leave one of the most important parts of your life  LOVE — to a chance or luck that may or may not happen. Or, you can set the intention to have it and take consistent actions to go after what you want until it becomes your reality.

Another extreme of the “someday syndrome” is perfectionism which is the opposite side of procrastination. You know, after you get your MBA, move to another city, get a promotion, lose 10 pounds and get a new wardrobe…then you’ll be “ready for love.” However, have you noticed that there’s always something else that gets in your way? What happens next is that most likely you find yourself with more impressive credentials, bank account and a closet, but still single.

The biggest problem with the “someday syndrome” is that it “steals” the most important asset we have – our time. The older we get, the more difficult it becomes to find love. I didn’t say it’s impossible but it’s definitely harder because of some basic statistics and facts. The availability of quality men who are looking to settle down in their mid- to late-thirties greatly decreases. At the same time there’s a lot more competition among 30-something women for the same shrinking pool of quality men. When men get older, they have more options to choose from. So, an established 40-year old man who’s ready to start a family will most likely choose a 30-year old woman over a 37-year old one simply because she’s younger, prettier (assumption but that’s how man think about women’s age) and she doesn’t have the pressure of her biological clock.

The intention of this article is to act as a WAKE UP call for you to do something differently to get different results in your love life and beyond. The reality is that doing the same things that haven’t been working in the past or not taking action at all and passively waiting for something to happen won’t get you the results you want.

Now that you have a choice, it’s time to turn it all around. Challenging your own beliefs, getting real, getting out of your comfort zone, taking consistent action and getting help are keys to getting out of an invisible trap.

Easier said than done, right?

Read on.

Challenge Your Own Beliefs

Your mindset is what defines the kind of results you get in life. For example, if you belief that Mr. Right will knock on your door someday even though he hasn’t all these years, then the result may be that you’ll be still single at the age of 38 or even 48. Again, there’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you want. But if you want to have a partner to share your life with and have someone waiting for you at home every night, then it’s time to challenge your beliefs.

If you go out on dates thinking “It’s going to be a waste of my time”, then it’s exactly how those dates will go for you, because that’s the intention that you set for yourself. And it doesn’t even matter how great a man sitting in front of you is. You’ll see what you expect and “programmed” yourself to see.

Why does it happen like that? Because no one wants to be wrong, even the most open-minded and spiritual of us – the ego gets in the way. So, you prove to yourself that you are right. And to your single girlfriends who complain about their bad dates too. But the cost of it is that you still don’t have the very thing you say you want.

Another thing to uncover is your personal blind spots. Those things that you may not even be aware of that sabotage your success with men, dating and relationships. You know, how in tennis you need someone to watch your serving technique so that you can adjust it and instantly improve your game? That’s the same thing with your mindset. No matter how many times you serve in tennis or go out on dates, if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, your game won’t improve.

Get Real

With yourself and others.

What I mean here is that you don’t have to change who you are to find love. Getting real is about reconnecting with yourself on a deeper level and becoming very clear about what really matters to you. Is it about creating a life when you are coming home to someone who waits for you and makes you laugh after a hard day at work? You may be so strong and independent that you made yourself believe you are fine with just being single and with the way things are in your life. But, if deep down, you feel lonely and not as happy and fulfilled as you would be if you had someone special in your life, then be honest with yourself. It’s when you are authentic and vulnerable that you open up to possibilities to create the future you dream about.

Getting real is also about others. You don’t have to pretend and try to be someone you are not. In fact, even though men you date may not be aware of it, they’ll feel it on a subconscious level if you aren’t being yourself. This may partially explain why he doesn’t call you back and ask you out on a second date.

This comes down to learning to love and accept yourself as you are:

  • Stop beating yourself up.
  • Stop trying to be someone you are not.
  • Stop trying to be someone you think your date wants you to be.
  • Stop comparing yourself to “her” or to “them”.

Take Consistent Actions

There’s no point in reading this article or buying relationship books if you take no action in your own life. All it takes is the first step, no matter how seemingly small it may be. The point here is not to overwhelm yourself but to do something that will create quick and empowering wins for you. The point is in doing something that will inspire you to take consistent steps moving towards finding love.

  • You may decide to sign up for an online dating website so that you can meet more men outside of your work-gym-home life.
  • You may decide to work with a dating/relationship expert and coach to uncover and resolve your personal blind spots.
  • You may get rid of your mental list for Mr. Perfect since no man has ever matched it and some of its points contradict each other.
  • You may join a meetup group or community where you’ll meet guys who share your interest and/or have common values.

Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Here’s the deal: to get out of your comfort zone, you have to be confident, self-assured and willing to take risks. Stepping into the unknown can be really uncomfortable and scary. But, it’s a proven-to-work way to get something different from what you know and have already.

Imagine that you want to tone your body and lose some weight. It’s not going to happen by sitting on a comfortable couch and browsing pages of the “Shape” magazine. You have to get off the couch, get to the gym, sweat and do those uncomfortable pushups and abs crunches till you get the results you want.

But, of course, we often don’t follow Nike’s brilliant advice “Just Do It.” For instance, have you ever stayed in a 4-year relationship that was about 3,5 years too long? You knew something was missing and broken but you didn’t want to rock that comfortable old boat. You were stuck but you kept telling yourself that “someday” it would change until it got so low that there was nowhere to go but up.

Judith Sills in her book “The Comfort Trap, or What You’re Riding a Dead Horse?” explains how we can be terribly unhappy but yet comfortable with our certainty. So, we don’t do anything about our unhappiness and lack of what we really want. Happiness is a risk, but the current situation, no matter how painful, is safe and predictable.

Watch out for your comfort zone turning into an invisible trap that’s much harder to escape. Challenge yourself. Watch out for your comfort zone turning into an invisible trap that’s much harder to escape. Challenge yourself. Do something that may make you feel uncomfortable like go out for dinner or on a weekend ski trip yourself. You never know who may sit next to you at a sushi bar or in a gondola. Keep your phone locked in your purse so that you can be totally present to what’s happening around you. 

Make a choice between comfortable but unhappy and unfulfilled or uncomfortable but blissful and meaningful. Personally, I constantly choose the latter and life keeps unwrapping its gifts right in front of me. The same is true for my clients who seek a clear, inspiring and result-focused way out of their traps. They get rewarded for their courage and love is the prize!

Seek help

You may think that you can do it all on your own. Yes, you can. In fact, you’ve been doing it all this time. The only thing is that if the results you have been getting aren’t the same as the results you truly want, it tells me there is a piece missing in that puzzle.

Yes, you have friends and family who love you dearly and might be telling you what you want to hear like “Someday you’ll meet a great guy.” The only problem is hearing what you want and not what you need to hear is precisely what keeps you stuck in an invisible trap.

And, if you are not as lucky, they maybe asking a really stupid question like “Why are you still single?” as if there is something wrong with you. I assure you that there’s nothing wrong with you – the problem is in a trap.

So, if we were working together, it would be my top goal to get you out of that trap once and for all. The focus would be on you going the intentional and life-changing process until you get the results you want. Right, it wouldn’t be about listening to your complaints about “no good men out there” and feeding you an empty promise of “someday.” That’s not my job.

The bottom line here is that there’s no freaking someday. There’s only now. And what you decide to do now is what determines your future. So, my message to you is don’t waste the best years of your life. Identify one thing you can do to move you closer to finding love and do it right now. Invest in yourself. Make time and create space for love to come in. Open up to uncertainty and risks. And, of course, celebrate your life as you see it transform.

If you enjoyed this article and want to get into action, I’m inviting you to a special 1-on-1 coaching session “Find Your Soulmate Now” at zero cost. During this session, we’ll work together to:

 -> Create a crystal clear vision of the kind of man you’d like to attract and the kind of relationship you’d like to have.

 -> Uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with men, dating and relationships. 

 -> Ensure that you leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to find and keep a great man once and for all. 

To apply now, simply email to [email protected] and answer these questions:

1. How long have you been single?

2. On a scale of 0 to 10, how important is it for you to get into a relationship right now? (If below 8, this session might not be right for you)

3. What do you see as your biggest relationship challenges?

4. What would you most like help with when it comes to men and dating?

5. What’s your age and occupation?

Be sure to include your name, phone number and email address so that Ksenia, my Client Management Administrator, can get back to you within the next 48 hours to schedule your 1-on-1 coaching session “Find Love in 2014.” 

P.S. I can’t wait to hear how great things are for you once you’ve got that great man in your life! 

About the author:

Polina Solda is a Dating/Relationship Expert and Certified Professional Coach. Her mission is to help thousands of women who are committed and ready to find love. Polina is the founder of Find Love and Keep It (http://www.findloveandkeepit.com/ – the site is currently in the process of rebranding and will go live soon.)



Calling all fashionistas, hipsters, urbanites, shoppers, and midnight funksters, Cynthia Rose here with the latest event to move you out of winter and into spring. Yes I know Daylight Savings has snapped up that much needed hour and you’re tired of wearing scarves, but a trip to the Brooklyn Night Bazaar is just what you need and admission is FREE!


Brooklyn Night Bazaar, housed in a 24,000 sq. ft. warehouse, is a night market for independent vendors, musicians, artists, brewers, and chefs.  While browsing vendors like We See Stars, BeMe, Strumpet,  FONY, and Victor Spinnelli in a flea market style, you can nosh on pastries, lobster, grilled cheese, and rumor has it that Hill Country Chicken has joined the line-up.

If you don’t feel like shopping, there’s also table tennis, a small arcade, skee-ball, and black-light mini-golf on a 9-hole course ($5 per person).


The Bazaar partners with music blogs and record labels which translate to live performances each night. Upcoming performers include Guards, Young Galaxy American Royalty, Cheryl Party, DJ Pegasus, DJ Alex White, Toy Soldiers, and Bronze Radio Return. Impressive sponsors range from Yelp and Perrier to Puma and JetBlue. Doors open Fridays and Saturdays from 7 pm to 1 am and ID’s will be scanned at the door. Admission is free but if you want to skip the line, you can purchase a Superpass for $25.


As opposed to previous years, the Bazaar is now open year-round. The aisles are pretty wide, so you’re able to browse freely during the early hours. While the items can get expensive, you can find one-of-a-kind items, which is rare in NY. The Bazaar is good for a low-key girl’s night and it’s a cool place to impress friends visiting from out-of-town.




The Bazaar will be full of fellow hipsters who take ping-pong way too seriously. If you don’t take a cab, the G train is the closest train. I personally think the MTA secretly hates the G train so please check out the service changes before you travel. While the Bazaar is open to all ages, someone always arrives with a double-decker stroller.


Check it out on a random Friday but arrive early to beat the crowds. As the weather warms up, expect more vendors and merchandise. It’s open year-round, so buy your Christmas or anniversary gifts early. You want a music sample?



As I am drinking coffee and writing these words, my thoughts and ideas are popping up uncontrollably and I can’t sit still. I feel like the littlest distractions are vying for my attention and I feel anxious that I can’t just focus on one.  Coffee is definitely not for everyone and affects everyone differently.   And for some the love of coffee just extends to Häagen-Dazs coffee ice cream.

But apart from Häagen-Dazs, coffee is used for an important part of everyday life, the workplace.  Most people I know, especially the working population relies on caffeine, to get them through their day. Some people I know have up to 5 cups of coffee a day or more! This, I always thought, could not be healthy. There have been many conflicting reports on whether caffeine is healthy or detrimental for you.  Since it is critical to understand what you are putting in your body especially at high frequencies, I will do my best to highlight the most solid findings and explain the current conclusion one can sum up from the credible research out there.   BUT PLEASE KEEP IN MIND: I am not an expert, I am just eager to learn and spread my findings, so if you really want to learn more I would recommend checking out my links and the specialists on the subject.

How does caffeine operate in the human body?

Caffeine permeates easily through body membranes and tissue compartments entering the blood stream through your mouth, throat and stomach lining. It takes just 45 minutes for 99% of the caffeine to be absorbed. The half-life of caffeine is the time it takes for the body to metabolize one half of the total amount of caffeine.  The half-life in caffeine ranges from 2.5 to 10 hours. After this time caffeine has either a little or no effect, such as a change in mood or alertness, which lasts about 2 to 5 hours.

I can’t stress enough my favorite word “moderation.”  The level of moderation may change from one person to the next. Some people (like me) may only need one cup of coffee to feel jittery, sometimes even irritable or anxious, so I try alternative ways of boosting my energy (which I’ll talk about in my next post).  Caffeine tolerance stems from how much coffee you are used to drinking, your body mass, age, health condition (especially if you have anxiety issues), and the medications you use (Here is an article listing medications that affect your caffeine intake).  Judging that someone is completely free from caffeine depends on a person’s ability to metabolize caffeine rather than absorb it and it may take the full day to eliminate all traces of caffeine from the body.


  • Increase in blood pressure
  • Caffeine is considered a drug so it should be treated like one, you should be mentally keeping track of how many doses you’ve had because too much can lead to:
    • Anxiety
    • Dependency
    • Withdrawals
    • Overdose (a.k.a Caffeine Intoxication)
  • Can cause lower birth weight in newborns
  • Because of these following factors caffeine can be correlated to the increased risk of coronary artery disease and stroke:
    • Stimulates adrenaline
    • Inhibits insulin
    • Increases blood pressure
    • Can cause acne
    • Can cause insomnia, hypertension and gastroesophageal


  • Coffee has a high level of antioxidants
    • Coffee is the number one source of antioxidants in the American diet, but not because it has the highest amount of antioxidants, because people drink it so frequently.
    • Through tests on rats (more information about why a rat brain is similar to a human’s) it is found that caffeine boosts cognition and guards the brain from inflammation and oxidative stress, which leads to cognitive, motor and neuronal decline.  This mean that your ability to reason, memorize, perceive (cognition); your ability to move (motor) and your nervous system function (neuronal) are kept in tack for longer.
    • Can enhance exercise performance
    • Can reduced risk of type 2 diabetes
    • Coffee is found to have properties that mobilize fat from fat tissue
    • Coffee drinking is an evident factor in social networking in the US and throughout the world, which can improve a person’s social life and quality of life.

So is caffeine healthy or not?

Much research has been done to further exploit the truths of caffeine, yet there are still conflicting findings and the long-term effects of caffeine are also not concrete enough. Although there are findings that coffee can have healthy benefits, coffee cannot be considered to be a healthy supplement to your diet without more in-depth research, more specifically with people who are sick. Most of what we know about coffee comes from studies with healthy participants.   Also there are many factors that numerical results do not take into account, such as the sick being prone to avoiding coffee, or the habitual coffee drinker having more of a booming social life because he or she tends to take more coffee breaks.  Therefore some experiments are more skewed than others, because of the undetermined factors.  Overall, the psychosocial aspects of caffeine, especially in coffee, (since it is one of the most popular beverages consumed) should be analyzed and developed as well as other factors mentioned above.

There is truth in the fact that caffeine can exacerbate certain health conditions, so please listen to your doctors if they tell you to stay away from caffeine. Caffeine is, once again, considered a drug so it is of great importance for all you intelligent, worldly women out there to just be aware of how many cups you have a day and if it is difficult to get that energetic feeling you used to get (and you are going to the bathroom like crazy) it might be time for a coffee detox to restore yourself to a more economic and healthy caffeine tolerance. The average caffeine consumption is around 2 cups of coffee per day, so with this in mind The Mayo Clinic recommends that people not to go over to 5 to 6 cups per day. Once again, moderation is key and only then will caffeine give you the benefits that are still becoming more evident.



Calling all fashionistas, girly girls, band geeks, and do-gooders! Cynthia Rose here with the latest Think Pink event for October. Do you like pink? Pop-up shops? Girls night out? Cocktails for a good cause? Do you secretly want to save the world but don’t own a cape? Shop Addicts is hosting a pop-up beauty and runway event on Thursday October 24th. The event is sponsored by IMAN Cosmetics and a portion of ticket sales and any additional donations will benefit breast cancer survivors.

The What?

Shop Addicts, an organization that brings awareness to social causes through the love of shopping, is launching this event along with Women Who Launch and the Women Chamber of Commerce. They want to see you in pink attire – necklaces, purses, boas, or dresses. It’s happening at the Yotel Hotel on 42nd street, where you can stroll down the pink carpet, get manicures, a signature drink, and a goodie bag.


The event will be hosted by a celebrity guest and cancer survivor, which is a nice combination of sparkly flash and the real effects of cancer. Pink girl tickets are free and Pink VIP tickets which include beauty treatments are $20 (let’s get serious – I spend more at the local happy hour). It should be a fun time to gab with the girls and feel like a star. Proceeds will benefit Sisters Network Inc., a national African American breast cancer survivorship organization.


It’s hard to find a balance between genuine charity and “showing up” to be seen. Some people will belong to the first group, while others the second. This event is also geared toward groups, so if you are the wallflower type (and sometimes I am) this event may not be for you.


We can’t all fight like Wonder Woman or have the face and body of Black Widow aka Scarlett Johansson, but we can have fun and contribute a little to the world while doing so. Go for it, Thursday’s never looked so good . . . .



Detoxing is all the rage these days, with juice cleanses, cayenne pepper diets, and <enter most recent detox trend here>.  I figured I would jump on the band wagon, and try the Jillian Michaels Detox Water, which didn’t make me stop eating, so all systems were a go to give this one a try.

This one is actually quite simple.  All you do is make this Detox Water, and drink it in its entirety throughout the day for 7 days.  You don’t have to stop eating, and you can still drink other things outside of the Detox Water, as long as you make sure you finish it.  One catch, which can make this an easy detox or a more difficult one:  You will be consuming 61 ounces of this drink.

What is in this Detox Water you ask?  Nothing too crazy.

-60 oz distilled water

-1 T 100% pure cranberry juice (no sugar added, non-cocktail)

-2 T lemon juice

-1 dandelion root tea bag


All the ingredients were easy enough to find (you can find the dandelion root tea at Whole Foods, any nature store, GNC), and the process of making it is simple – you just mix it all together, leaving the tea bag in it all day.

The Purpose?  If you drink this Detox Water for 7 days straight, Jillian Michaels says it will help you lose up to 5 lbs. in excess water weight.

My Thoughts?  I didn’t find it very difficult to do, but then again I am used to drinking a lot of water every day.  I kept it next to me all day, so it was easy to grab, and I didn’t get left with a ton to drink at the end of the day.  As for the flavor – it was pretty lemony.  I didn’t find it bitter, as you might imagine it being from the tea.  It actually was a bit tart, and went down the hatch rather easily.

Did it work?  Eh.  I lost maybe a pound or two.  Not sure if it is because I drink this much tea/water each day anyways, or because it was the beginning of that not so lovely time of the month, but I didn’t see much of a difference.  Also, since I have been eating healthier (minus superbowl weekend..oh my!), the weight loss could have been from that.  Overall, I didn’t see anything negative about it though, so I would recommend it to someone that may feel bloated, or could use drinking more water/tea.  I’ve read that others aren’t as hungry while they are doing it, and they lose the full 5 pounds, so power to you if you want to give it a shot.  Plus, Dandelion Root is supposed to be great for your liver and digestion.



Living in New York, it is fairly easy to find a yoga studio. In fact, there is a plethora of yoga choices from hot yoga to Bikram yoga to zen boot camp yoga. But for residents of Harlem, yoga studios, especially an affordable yoga studio, were not plentiful. However, in November Unity Yoga opened at 128th and St. Nicholas, bringing affordable yoga to the community.

Unity Yoga, a Vinyasa based studio, hopes to build a strong community of yogis in Central Harlem. Sarah Rehman, owner of the studio, saw potential in a community that was underserved by yoga studios. The name, Unity, was chosen to make yoga accessible to those who are unfamiliar or new to the practice. While all levels are welcomed, there is a focus on beginning level students. There are multiple alignment and core classes offered where students are encouraged to use props to find their bodies natural alignment and work to increase their own flexibility. Unlike downtown yoga studios, the focus of Unity Yoga is on the individual’s needs with teachers working to address the student’s individual needs and offer modifications as needed. Yoga at Unity is accessible but challenging, allowing each student to feel at home in this growing community.

But Unity Yoga is more than just a studio; it is a growing community of Harlemites focused on unity. Rehman plans on adding a coffee bar with WiFi to encourage members to simply hang out and get to know each other. With a large reception area there will be space for retail, with the focus on yoga gear and props. The studio, a gorgeous urban oasis, will hopefully be home to book clubs, meditation classes, and workshops (look for one in January!). Walking through the doors of Unity Yoga one feels at home, welcomed as one is to become what one hopes to be.

With a focus on community membership and acknowledging the median income of Harlem residents, Rehman works diligently to keep the cost of classes affordable. First time members can purchase a monthly pass for $48, a great deal in any part of the city. After that, monthly membership is $72. For those who aren’t ready to make a commitment, individual classes are $22. The studio provides mats, blocks, and towels as well as access to showers and dressing rooms (a plus that many boutique studios do not have). To purchase any class or membership, simply visit unityyoganyc.com.

Unity Yoga is a much needed plus to a community that just keeps growing. Come join the flow on your mat and find your breath. Namaste!

Fashion Spotlight: Ebony White

Ebony White

After being a featured Fashion Designer at last week’s RAW, Natural Born Artists Event, Ebony White, who likes to go by Ebo (eee-boe), is a force to be reckoned with.  With her Fun, Flirty, and Feminine pieces, her designs have been featured in top fashion magazines, and can be seen on many celebrities.  Ebony was kind enough to take a moment from her busy schedule to tell us a little about herself, and her life in NYC’s Fashion Industry.

SceneStealersNYC:  Where were you born, and what was it like growing up?

Ebony:   I was born in Hot Springs, Arkansas, the land of Bill Clinton, and my family actually knows the Clintons.  When he was President we got to visit the White House and everything.  I only lived in Arkansas until I was about 5.  My mom joined the military and so I grew up in Mississippi, Spain, and Colorado. In my adult life, moving has never been a big issue to me, and it is always an opportunity to open new doors.  So after graduating high school, I moved to DC, New York, Los Angeles, back to New York, Atlanta, and now I’m back in New York again.  I think I would like to spend a few years abroad.

SceneStealersNYC:  Where did you attend college?

Ebony:   I attended Howard University for undergrad, where I studied Fashion Design and Merchandising with a minor in journalism, and after graduating there, I got a second degree a couple years later from the Fashion Institute of Technology in Design.

SceneStealersNYC:   What are 3 words you would use to describe yourself?

Ebony:  Dedicated, energetic, perfectionist

SceneStealersNYC:  Where do you currently work, and what is your role?

Ebony:  I am a swimwear designer for Juicy Couture, DKNY and newly TYR Redline, an updated lifestyle brand for TYR.

SceneStealersNYC:  What made you pursue a career in fashion?

Ebony:  I believe my mom passed off the desire to me in the womb because she’s always had fashion in her blood.  She is an amazing seamstress, and used to design clothes for herself, and customers, in Hot Springs in high school.  I can’t remember ever wanting to be anything different.

SceneStealersNYC:  What was the first article of clothing you ever designed?

Ebony:  A dress for my Barbie Doll out of a tube sock.  My Barbie Dolls were obviously high society.

SceneStealersNYC:  What are some of your accomplishments as a designer?

Ebony:  I have been in the industry for about 15 years, and I feel extremely fortunate to actually be working in a field that I chose, and that I love.  Not so many people are so blessed.  I was a Critic Award winner at FIT.  Once I entered the industry, I was hired as an assistant, but within 3 months promoted to a designer.  From my first job, I moved up and progressed at high speed.  I’ve worked for many big name brands, my designs have been sold around the globe, in magazines, on tv, and worn by celebrities.  It’s awesome to see when someone gets pleasure out of something born out of my mind.  I was recently showcased at a RAW: Natural Born Artists event, and it was awesome.  My biggest accomplishment is seeing how many people out there love and support my work.

SceneStealersNYC:  Where do you get your inspiration?

Ebony:   I am inspired by everything.  If you gave me a piece of fuzz out of your pocket, I could design a collection around it.  I am a completely organic designer,  so much so, that I feel like the garments design themselves, and I am just a vessel.

SceneStealersNYC:  Who are some of your favorite designers?

Ebony:  I love everybody. There are no designers that I love every single piece, and there are no designers that I couldn’t find something that I love.  Passion shows through it all, and that tends to be what I’m drawn to.  I tend to buck trends.  A lot of times designers have big names because they have big budgets to pay for marketing and publicity.  End of story.

SceneStealersNYC: Who is your favorite style icon?

Ebony:  That’s a tough one, I have a commitment problem.

SceneStealersNYC:  Who would you love to outfit, and what would you choose?

Ebony:    I would love to dress The Lady Tigra because I love her spirit and energy.  A big name, I’d probably choose Angelina Jolie, because I love her spirit, the way she carries herself, and people pay attention to what she wears.

SceneStealersNYC:  What are some of your favorite clothing stores/catalogs/websites?

Ebony:  I tend to do a lot of shopping in the sale section of shopbop.com

SceneStealersNYC:  What do you think are the current and future trends in fashion?

Ebony:  Current trends: lace, eyelet, sheer, femininity, bra tops and jackets, full skirts, flowers, wide legged pants, colorful prints in primary colors.  Future trends: printed denim,  intricate detailing, beautiful embroidered crochet and forms of knitting, very tailored dresses, interesting plaids.

SceneStealersNYC:  How would you define NYC’s fashion?

Ebony:  People mostly wear black here.  At big fancy events though, I love seeing people strut their stuff and go all out.

SceneStealersNYC:  What fashion goals do you have?

Ebony:  I want people to know my name, and my work.  Fashion is a world where most of the people doing all of the work get none of the credit.  I want people to know my name so all the people that have supported me along the way, especially my mom, my sisters and my friends, can be proud and inspired.

SceneStealersNYC:  What advice do you have for aspiring fashion designers?

Ebony:  Believe in yourself, and don’t give up.  A lot of people give up and settle.  The ones who make it are the ones who never stop trying.  Also, try to use every situation as a learning opportunity.  Get involved in projects, work with other artists, work with people you feel are better than you, think outside of the square.  If people see your passion, they want to help you, and they fight for you, even when things are a struggle and you have a hard time fighting for yourself.  Jealous people will drag you down, but only if you let them.  Instead, be an inspiration to them, and pull them up.

A few fun questions:

SceneStealersNYC:  What’s in your ipod right now?

Ebony:  A group called The Senate recently played during a fashion show I did.  The song they performed was called Spanglish.  I LOVE IT.

SceneStealersNYC:  Is there any mantra/quote you like to live by?

Ebony:  Set the trends.  Let them follow.

SceneStealersNYC:  Who’s your celebrity crush?

Ebony:  Justin Timberlake.  Still.

SceneStealersNYC:  If you could meet anyone in the world, dead or alive, who would it be, and what would you say to them?

Ebony:  A toss up between James Baldwin and Fiona Apple.  They’re both so smart and talented.  I just want to pick their brains.

SceneStealersNYC:  If you were an animal, what would you be?

Ebony:  A bird.  An owl would probably be my best friend.

Thank you so much Ebony for interviewing with us.

“Happy Mommy, Happy Baby”

As I was sitting on the bus the other day, heading into the city for a meeting, with my mini-me snacking on cheezits next to me, I just stared at her in pure adoration.  As she would say each letter on the special Scrabble cheezits, and count the number of buses that we passed, my mind wandered to how much she truly has changed my life.  I know you hear so many parents raving about how their bundle of joy has changed their life, but for me, it was more than just in respect to an unconditional love that you have for a child.  It was more than bringing a completeness to a family, or a greater purpose possessed because you now have a new title of mommy.  She did those things, but my daughter has changed my life genuinely to the core of my existence, and the  love I have for myself.  Just as any good parent, she comes first above all, but I now see that making myself a priority is just as important.

“Children learn to smile from their parents.” – Shinichi Suzuki

Many are familiar with the old adage, “Happy Wife, Happy Life,” but just as this can ring true in a relationship, I have adopted my own adage of “Happy Mommy, Happy Baby.”  Leading up to her birth, there were a string of hurdles that took its toll on my emotional well being.  After she came into the picture, I needed to dig deep into who I was, and what my priorities were.  She was my first priority, and I left my career to be a stay at home mom.  With this change, my other priorities came into play.  I decided to leave everything I had done in the past behind, and follow my passion to find a career that I could be truly happy in, and could afford me the opportunity to stay at home with my daughter.   That field became social event planning, and became the starting point where the passion took over.  There is a drive in me, that I didn’t even know existed, to become the best person that I can be.  The self love I now have drives me to be healthier, overcome fears that would hold me back in the past, and work towards goals that  I have.  My favorite line to describe myself is always “I am a work in progress,” and I truly am.  And I like that.  Being stagnant is not an option.  And I have my daughter to thank for helping me to uncover the hidden passion that lay within.

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” -Anonymous

Coming back to reality, my daughter asks to sit on my lap so she can see out the window.  She stares out in wonder to the world around her, and I hold her as close as I possibly can.  I smell in her scent, and realize how much control I have over her life and future.  Just two days prior we put the deposit down securing her a spot in a nice private preschool.  After racking my brain over what type of teaching method would be the most conducive to her personality, and which preschool that we visited had everything that we wanted, I realized that all I can do is try to give her the building blocks needed to build the structure of her future, and she will fill in that structure with her own passion.  Each day I appreciate the ride that I am on, watching her explore, experience, and learn new things.  I just hope that I can give her every opportunity to find her true passion, just as she, without even trying, has  helped me to do.

It’s not only children who grow.  Parents do too.  As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours.  I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun.  All I can do is reach for it myself.  ~Joyce Maynard

“Happy Mommy, Happy Baby”